Got to sleep in this morning & arose out of bed at 9am. The hubby greeted me with a hug & a "Happy Furry-Mother's Day" along with a cup of coffee - such a sweet guy! I also got tons of smooches from the furry's! I then proceeded to sit down with my coffee, outside on the patio with the birds chirping, the sun bright & do some blogging. Ahhhh - fabulous morning :)
The day is now coming to an end as I sit here enjoying my evening on the patio, I think about the meaning of today & how it is a special day to honor mom's. Unfortunately, it is also a day that brings a bitter reminder to all those who have suffered through infertility & loss.
This time last year I was upset, sad & felt devastated that I wasn't yet a mom. This year I don't have quite the negative feelings but it does still bother me. Somehow I feel a bit mellower about the whole situation - maybe it's because I have been dealing with infertility for so long!? Or maybe it's because I have changed my attitude!? Or maybe it's because I have grown to realize that it is what it is & I can't change the cards that have been dealt to me?!
Regardless of what it is, lately I have decided to do away with my "poor-me" attitude & instead enjoy this childless life I live rather than resent it. I have come to realize that there are many benefits to having children, but on the flip side, there are just as many to NOT having them & I am going to enjoy these benefits until my status changes. My sister (who is a mother of 2 boys - 3 & 1 yrs old) is always reminding me of these benefits:
1. Sleeping in on weekends!
2. Ability to spend money freely – have you seen my Coach purse collection?!
3. I can choose to work late nights & take extra call on weekends & not feel guilty about it.
4. I can spend many summer evenings on the patio reading or blogging with the furry's beside me.
5. The hubby & I can go out for lunch/dinner & enjoy the company of just the two of us.
6. I am able to spend time doing the hobbies I love by myself - reading, gardening, shopping, etc.
7. I can meet the girls after work for dinner or a quick drink on any given evening.
8. My car is always clean & if it is dirty it is because of me & me only!
9. I can lay around on a lazy Sunday & watch movies ALL DAY if I want!
10. When I leave the house, all I need are my keys & my purse & I am out the door in 2 minutes.
11. I can plan weekend getaway's with my hubby or girlfriends at any time.
12. I can enjoy late "game-night" with the girls every month while enjoying a cocktail or two because I know I get to sleep in the next morning!
Now don't get me wrong - I enjoy my child-free "benefits" LOTS & some might even be envious of the life we lead, but don't think I wouldn't gladly trade all of it in a skinny minute if it meant I could be a mother. Maybe this time next year I will get to be so truly blessed but until then, I will continue to enjoy my life children-free & be "mom" to my furry's that love me so unconditionally.
With that said, I want to wish a Happy Mother's Day to all the wonderful women in my family - especially my own mother, to all my girlfriend's who are mom's & mom's-to-be, to all the other honorary mom's out there & we can't forget all us "pet" mom's :) May you all enjoy this beautiful day with those that matter most to you!
Hugs to you all,
HT :)
Me & my mom